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Getting back on the horse here. I\u2019ve spent a few months away from this blog space. Life happens you know? We have been busy with work, kids, date nights – as you will see below, and just life in general. I think time has gotten away from me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was recently talking to my friends about this blog and they have inspired me to get back into it. They even went as far as to give me a few new post ideas. If you don\u2019t already have it, you need a supportive group of friends like that. I highly recommend it! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This post is all about the other important relationship in life – with your partner.\u00a0 Now I\u2019m not here to say my relationship with my husband is perfect. Or that we have it all figured out because we certainly do not. Lately though, we have been doing a few things well and I wanted to share that with you!\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n

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A date night<\/a> during our recent trip to South Carolina – I’ll share more on this later! <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Keep the Spark Alive<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019ve alluded to it before but the adage of dating your spouse is crucial to the longevity of your relationship. It\u2019s so, so easy to put your partner and your marriage on the back burner when you are in the thick of parenthood with little kids. I will say, I think it’s also easy to put your relationship on the back burner even when you don’t have kids! Bryan and I have been very intentional in the last year in trying to not fall into this practice.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n

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A recent Downtown Dallas date night!<\/a> <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

As you know, we have also uprooted our life in the last year and are still adjusting to our big Texas move<\/a>. Now that we are feeling more settled in our home, in our jobs and even with some new friends here we are getting into some good routines.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Since we moved away from family and all of the grandparents we have lost out on some easy babysitting situations. I will admit that this is one of the cons of moving cross country! When we first moved, we would very rarely find a sitter. Then we would go to dinner or try to play golf just the two of us. I initially found sitters through a neighborhood Facebook group. Since then I have tried to use the same few sitters. These dates still happened pretty infrequently.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Schedule those Date Nights!<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

This spring, I started feeling like we needed to do something more regularly. We were in the grind of the busy morning, getting to work and then the busy evenings before bedtime and then rinse and repeat. I decided we needed to be more intentional with our time and prioritizing a little break for ourselves from that daily grind. So, since May we found an awesome girl in our neighborhood who babysits for us every Tuesday. She comes over after work and Bryan and I get out of the house for some much needed adult, couple time. (G-rated couple time – that phrase could imply otherwise haha).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We have been using that time for golf (we joined a golf club – more on this later) or a date night for dinner. It\u2019s been so amazing for us to get a little break and do something we enjoy doing sans kids. Our\u00a0 sitter will be off to college next week but I\u2019ve already found her replacement to make sure we can continue this routine into the fall and winter!\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n

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This will be our most popular date night<\/a> spot! <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

This has obviously added to our monthly expenses but we both agree it\u2019s been so worth it for our relationship and our mental health. So far our kids have honestly really enjoyed it too. My oldest always gets excited when he\u2019s reminded that it\u2019s Tuesday and Natalie is on her way over!\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you find yourself in that daily grind and your relationship is on the back burner, I highly recommend adding some regular date nights to your routine! If a weekly date night is too hard to manage with your schedule, I think you would see benefits with a bi-weekly or even a monthly date night.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Try it for yourself! <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

The important thing is that you make a point to put it on your calendars and actually stick to it. Get it planned ahead of time so you aren\u2019t just scrambling for those on-a-whim date nights. That\u2019s what we were doing before and that was not effective or sustainable for us. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Get out there and date your spouse! Let me know below if this is something you are already doing or are going to try with your partner! And if you want to jump on my email list – drop your contact info below! <\/p>\n\n\n